School of life - The art of learning

Humanity is able to evolve by means of learning and passing down knowledge. We have structured educational systems to facilitate the consumption of information that spans over centuries. Worldwide societies are moving towards a specialist approach where the individual is encouraged to have a narrow but advance skillset, leaving little regard to other areas of general life. This works well for the larger vision for society but can leave individuals lacking and unbalanced in not having a diverse knowledge of life.

Embracing learning as part of your journey not just a destination will allow more freedom and enrich your life continuously. This will happen as your understanding of life will broaden allowing you to see more options in your choices and giving you more confidence in what their results will be.

• Have a teachable nature. Valuable life lessons come from the most unlikely sources. In case of advice offered, always make room to listen but be firm in the understanding that it will be taken under advisement with no promise to comply or agree.
• Try not to draw conclusions before engaging. Always listen then speak.
• Learning from someone more advanced than you is the easy part; the more difficult task is the ability to learn from people equal or below you within community structures without losing their respect. This is a skill that requires practice with variety of methods from openly giving them the credit to taking the lesson to heart without skipping a beat.
• Think outside the box. Seek life lessons from stories, encounters, friendships and everything else life throws at you.
• Be unbiased while exploring cause and effect, do this by playing the devil’s advocate. Do not be satisfied with one side of any point, consider all the options that you can think of
• Learning from other people’s insights and theories one should focus on finding nuggets of truth not simply accepting or disregarding it as a single concept. There are many truths that seem to be opposites yet their value lies in their application (Exp. Proverbs), try to understand and find the right place to apply them or find some core principles to learn from.
• Form your own opinions. Forming our own hypothesis and theories on life is different from learning from others, start from single truth which you believe you have gained a deeper insight into and build a basic theory. Going forward you should not purely defend yours but put it to the test by searching for inconsistencies that can shed more light or change the direction of the current hypothesis. Each time you are forced to adjust it means you have either gained a deeper insight or explored alternatives which is the result of personal growth.

Life is too short to learn only from our own mistakes. We are continuously exposed to the results of choices, everything from important decisions to smaller almost invisible cause and effect situations. As our lives fork into a complex web of cause and effect we should take the time to see and understand the seemingly hidden details of life so that we are not merely a pawn but becoming the chess player.

This goes for understanding human behavior, self-improvement but also very important to partake in opportunities to form new life experiences. Fear of fears, if your hesitant to try something new replace that with the fear of withering away without experiencing life and only being a mere shadow of what you were meant to be.

Remember the fastest way to fail learning is by thinking you have completed the course. This lures you into false sense of fulfillment which will slow any additional progress.  The more you learn the more you should understand how little you do know in regards to the vast knowledge that is out there, understanding this will keep you motivated to progress even further. That being said having no targets can leave you directionless so try to set milestones, NOT finishing lines, while learning.

Inner Core - Black Bagging

We are what we think. What we present to the world regarding ourselves can range from slightly altered to something completely unrecognizable to who we are in our inner core. The more these are different the bigger your inner struggle will, this struggle can easily take casualties as low self esteem and self loathing. The goal of this concept is to get these worlds closer together from within rather than focusing on the exterior.

"Beware of the dog"

Some ways people cope with the inner darkness:

• Embrace it. Some people do not pretend to fit in or be 'good'. Although this has severe consequences, the individual can be at peace with them self and their nature.

• Hide it. Add more distance to what you are when no one is looking and what you present to others as a show. This tends to result in extremities and serious impact when in a moment of weakness you give a glimpse into your core.

• Fight it. This is refusing to conform to your urges and instead standing up for what you want to be.

Can we truly change our nature? Maybe not, but that does not mean we cannot control it.

We might be taken aback on how many characteristics of our so called nature is nothing more than by-products of life experience, choices and the culture we are exposed to. Surprisingly not something as unchangeable as we would like to believe, we tend to rather shy away from taking responsibility for our bad characteristics by labeling it under 'our nature' than owning up to it. That being said, I do believe that some people have a real darkness that transcends just normal thoughts and urges, the key difference between these are that one can be changed and the other only kept under control.

Our inner core is one of our greatest gifts, the one thing no one can own or see without you allowing them in (*Links to attributes of a character with depth), and yet people live outward without even considering it. Going even deeper, the main chamber for our consciousness is our thoughts and many problems come from entertaining chaotic and uncontrolled thoughts. The ability to think is a very powerful tool; it forms us from within, acting as filter, allowing us to be more than mindless animals. This 'room' can be what you want it to be, its application capabilities is truly endless.

Controlling the ideas and urges that just appear is vital, and as inner thoughts are the seeds that drive our actions it should be the first and foremost battleground. Utilizing your thoughts as an additional filter will help you gain the upper hand in the dark corners in your mind. This can be viewed as closing distance between your inner self, by getting closer to what you want to be, and what you present to the world.

Some ideas in handling these: 

• Black bag unwanted thoughts. It takes practice but find a way to clear all present thoughts. One way is by imagining a pitch black screen with a powerful blanket of silence. Keep your focus until everything else is drowned out.

• Stop urges through pain redirection. Urges are stronger than just thoughts and as such might require more persuasive measures. A pinch or pressing nail against finger should be enough to break the immediate impulse. You can use this with the above veil of nothingness to endure a clean break.

We are continuously formed by our thoughts and actions. Do not linger on unhealthy thoughts, take control as soon as it confronts you. Keep in mind the more you feed your monsters the harder it will be to take them down!

Be careful to use these tactics as a means to avoid dealing with issues that exist because of real experiences you had. Work through issues that require time and attention until your inner turmoil has calmed down. You should be at peace with yourself before you can be at peace with everything else around you.

*Future read

Isolation from status rules

Society has many ways of determining an individual status in relation with others (wealth, fame, accomplishments, company he/she keeps, etc.). People continuously both consciously and unconsciously place others and themselves in ranking orders. These rules govern most of our choices, influence our approach towards other people and also the way we see ourselves. 

We might have some control of the journey through life but ultimately we cannot change our origin or our final fate as inhabitants of mortal bodies. In essence, human life is a gift and must as such be valued equally. The idea of influence or cultural structures is only our attempt to control the environment we live in. These structures however are a necessity for our modern way of life. We seem to confuse the value of human life as something that is directly related to our status and also accept the same treatment when passed down to us. The empowerment you feel when dealing with someone ‘less’ than you and the ‘intimidation’ of meeting with someone more accomplished than yourself has not only been used to determine your position but also how you value yourself and others. 

To break free from these constrains we put on ourselves and the limitations pushed down on us, we need to embrace the very simplistic but powerful approach to view all people as equal and still understand the importance of each individuals cultural role without looking at them as more or less than yourself. 

This is much easier said than done as these rules are everywhere around us, ignoring the system will cause ripples and although you will feel improvements it might not be understood by everyone. This is a life approach and requires a recalibration of your view on life that filters past the obvious to the smaller almost invisible mannerisms. Evaluate your thoughts and actions that other people don’t see, like what are you thinking when you give money to a beggar or will you open the door at the office for the cleaner as well as the CEO without even thinking about it? The opposite is also true, when you have mastered this you will be able to comfortably function in the presence of someone much higher by social standards because you are not intimidated by it (you understand their role in society without acknowledging it as something that has power over you). Practical skill-sets will still affect your professional profile within an organization or community but after understanding the difference you won’t use this as a validator, either increasing or decreasing your self-worth, but look at people around you as equals no matter of their social standing.

The singular point of existence

Life is experienced by the individual’s singular point of existence; we interact and experience life though our senses which consumes our viewpoint and expands this into a realistic world that is rich in dimensions and in amazing interactive complexity far beyond our grasp.

The simplest explanation is most likely the correct one.

Let us start with a basic idea. If I experience movement, is the universe standing still and is it only me that is moving or do I stand motionless and experience movement as my senses experience change? We seem to be able to brush away the idea that the whole universe is changing around because it seem like a very far stretch. This conclusion is based on a firm believe that everything we see is just that and nothing more, but what if the opposite concept is more likely? This is almost unthinkable and can easily shake us if we don’t approach it carefully.

Watching a movie like Avatar gives us a very realistic ability to experience a different reality, here we seem to easily grasp and differentiate realities. Most probably because it is easier to believe that it is an illusion than it being a true life event of someone actually filming on another planet. Using the same logic is it not easier to believe that through our senses we exist in this singular point versus the current approach where we believe that there is a vast universe where the totality of each of our existences and experiences is not even measurable.

How do we prove something is real? In society we continuously do this by sharing awareness, I can see you can see that and that gives me the confidence to believe that it is there. This is a good method for validating facts, by combining input from two or more sources. The real twist comes in as one needs to be able to experience something from more than one point (We have senses but the experience comes from a singular point) which we are unable to do, there is no way of proving or disproving that any other point/s is not just part of the illusion. It might even be a illusion shared by many individual points interacting in a shared conciousness. Eitherway this reality is to specific in design and definition to be somthing that just exists, it definitivly speaks of enteligent design and some ever present force that keep it all together.

This type of thinking can be very dangerous as people can lose themselves in the midst of this sea of loneliness, complete indefiniteness and seeing everything through a general relativity viewpoint. The biggest danger I think is that people use this base idea as excuse to say that nothing can be proven or disproven, that there are no absolutes and no right or wrong. It does challenge our viewpoints if we start to question the foundations of existance and rules that we abide by without any second thought especially certain topics such as death, life, religion, etc. as we are less restricted by our definition of reality.

I believe that there is a greater architecture of life that we cannot understand or fully experience in our current reality/state as living entities using only our senses to interact and exist. I believe that actions have consequence and that the current reality (even if I might be experiencing it differently as to what it might really be) has a specific purpose and reason for existence as do we. I believe that keeping this theory in mind allows me to broaden my ability to understand abstract concepts around me and that I should not use it as an excuse to do whatever I want. Furthermore I believe that the Creator of this reality will keep us accountable for our decisions but that this is not the motivation behind its existence. This should motivate us to find our individual purpose for existence.

I do feel that we sometimes get the opportunity to glimpse into something deeper than ourselves, and our current understanding, and that we should embrace these moments and treasure them.

*Although I have given my opinion above without any context to a specific religion I must state that this ideas aligns to my Christian beliefs and my journey of trying to understand life, I however hope that the concept challenges everyone to revisit their standard way of thinking in general.

Maximum Point of Optimization (Saturation Point)

In life we try to embrace a forward way thinking of looking at possible ways of improving ourselves and our tasks.

This is a very good mindset but we need to consider the following:

All improvements/optimizations for a specific approach have a saturation point where efforts to better will have close to no impact or possibly a negative incline in the overall result. When a new idea or approach is set in motion it is the best opportunity to push efforts into optimization, but once it reaches maturity and becomes a working model, one should revert to smaller changes without big expectations of improvement. This will typically play a role on a micro level like oiling the system but have no real benefit to the overall result. If a big methodology change is made it might once again bring up the opportunity for more meaningful optimizations. A couple of different types of results you can expect:

• No improvement (Either wrong idea or it might be that the model is mature and has reached the saturation point for optimizations)
• Improvement to one or more focus points but negative effect on other parts (Pros and cons should be weighed from a holistic viewpoint) If you for instance implement a much more sophisticated step by step reporting system you might have better statistics on current activities but because of the extra overhead you might lose productivity that might hurt you even more.
• Small improvements (This should be seen for what it is, no big overall impact but might ease the execution - oiling out the system) These might have other positive impacts that are difficult to measure as job satisfaction, better relations etc.

Don’t ever try to change a system before you understand the dynamics of the current working system as you are very likely to both fail and damage relationships. (You need to know the rules before you can break them)

A good rule of thumb is to try new ideas but always keep the bigger picture in mind. The younger the concept the bigger the challenge to the process should be and although you should not expect amazing results for each iteration of change you should attempt it as such. Finally when your ideas don't work don’t try to force it, take the hit and consider the reasons and evaluate whether you have reached the maximum point of optimization.

The Improbability of Unconditional Love

Unconditional loves states that nothing could change it, it is set in stone (Destined by destiny). The beauty in love is that it is a commitment based on a choice from two people. Because this feeling or commitment flows from a series of choices that one cannot predict the outcome, one can only make an unwavering commitment to each other and keep oneself true.

For me this is the essence of love, not that it is indestructible but that its fragility requires constant care and commitment. This makes lives together a journey not just a predefined plan set in motion. When reaching a mature state in a relationship where both have settled in a comfortable lifestyle with each other it might seem like everything will always stay the same BUT it is important to remember that the underlying unpredictability is always there and its influence ever present in our lives. As long as we control this part and don't ignore its existence we can use it to keep love exiting. 

Love is not a switch but rather something with the characteristics of a living creature that is always evolving and requires attention, direction and care. Do not allow yourself to caught in a false sense of invulnerability, and never get blinded to:

• Know what you have in the other person (Never take their goodness for granted) 
• Subtle changes in your or the other person’s life.

Do not allow each other to grow apart, be sure to participate and be supportive. As a final thought, keep love pure and uncomplicated when it comes to other people in your life. Put the other person first and let them do the same.

 "Love is predictably unpredictable only until you stop predicting the unpredictable at which point it will become truly unpredictable"